A boy made me cry today.
1) I purposely made a sentence that makes me sound juvenile
2) There are a lot of things that makes a “man”, but I don’t think this person got any of them, and with a dick and facial hair, he’s just a human male = we call this creature, a “boy”.
Okay that sounded really harsh, but he’s not exactly nice to me. I thought he was my friend, because me and him, do what friends do. We talk to each other, we tease each other, we laugh together, we hang out together. But I guess there’s always one thing missing from our “friendship” — respect, which is the most important thing to me in any kind of relationship. He never respected me as a girl, and I didn’t respect him as a guy.
I was having a really bad day and all wound up inside, and all I need is one of his lame jokes (or rather his lame attempts) for me to laugh at. But instead he laughed at my plight, and didn’t even bother to comfort me just a little bit. This behaviour is not uncommon for him, and on my regular days, I would just playfully punch him on the shoulders and laugh with him. But today was so burdensome that all I could do was bursting into tears. When this happened, my thoughts flew to the times when he’s not in a good condition and the things I did for him — because I cared. He probably didn’t even realize that I do.
Ah I think I figured this out.
He’s not a mean or bad person, he is capable of being really nice and sweet. It’s just that he doesn’t care about me, that is why he’s not comforting me when I need it. I did what I did for him — all the nice things — because I cared about him. I need to learn how to stop. I don’t want to be wasting my emotional energy on people who don’t care back.
Honestly I don’t know why I care so much anyway. What makes him special? I gave it a thought and I realized that his face (or the way he looks) makes you feel like you want to protect him, and take care of him. The sad eyes, the goofy smile, the (really) nice voice just hooked me up like a hungry, careless fish hooked by novice fishing.
Rather than falling all over myself caring about the people who didn’t care, I might as well turn my attention to the people who ARE being nice to me and care about me a lot. I will give back to them a lot of effort and love — because they deserve it. I am moving on.